An Advent Calendar for my Friends – Christmas Day


Angel of Freedom
HUGUET, Jaume: The Archangel St Michael, 1456;
Tempera on panel, 213 x 136 cm, Museu Nacional d’Art de Catalunya, Barcelona.

The Angel of Freedom

by Anselm Grün

All of us long for freedom. Because it hurts to feel dependant. If other people control our lives, if we have no choice but to live up to their expectations around them, we get angry about that. It is contrary to our dignity. We also don’t feel well if we are controlled by our emotions or habits. We may have political freedom on the outside today. But in our daily dealings with each other many people don’t feel free. They feel subdued by the necessities of life. They feel their lives are determined by the expectations of society. They don’t dare to break away and to swim against the current. They have the impression that other people control them.

Someone does not dare to say what she is thinking. She is considering what others expect of her, what others would think of her. She is not herself, but she tries to be the person the others would like her to be. But that way I can never become a real person, that way I will never discover who I really am.

The German word for freedom, “Freiheit” is derived from the Indo-German root prai. This means: protect, conserve, like, love. The German word for suitor is “Freier”. The ancient Germans called someone whom they loved and protected “frei”, a free man. He was a free member of the community and had all the rights to go with that. He was free, unfettered, independent, unencumbered. I am feeling free if I know that I am loved. Then I don’t have to live according to the expectations of someone else. Then I am allowed to be the way I am. If I am loved by someone, I can act the way I am feeling around that person. Then I don’t have to be afraid all the time what others might think of me. I know that someone approves of me. If I feel loved down to the core of my being, I am free of the compulsion to try and live up to the expectations of other people. I am free of the compulsion to be successful all the time, to have something to prove, to conform to standards of society.

The Greek have three words for freedom. Eleutheria is the freedom to go where I want to go. I am free in my actions. I can do what I think is right. I am not constricted by rules and expectations of others. Parrhesia means the freedom of speech. You may think that this is nothing special. You are allowed to say what you think in a democracy, after all. But how often do you conform to others. I know a very talented person with an excellent résumé. But he’s incapable of finding a job, because during each interview he keeps thinking about what the human resources manager might think of him if he says this, and if he might think that he is neurotic if he said that. He is not free in what he says. We are only free, if we can show ourselves the way we really are, if we can speak our own inner truth in front of others. The third term, autarkia, means self-determination. I can decide for myself what I want, what and how much I eat, when I abstain and fast. This inner feeling of freedom, to be my own master, is essential to human dignity. Many people are driven by their addictions today. The Angel of Freedom would be good for them, who would pick them up and allow them to determine their fate freely.

A woman has fallen in love with a man. But the man does not want to have anything to do with her. Although she knows that there is no chance for their relationship and although she knows that she is only hurting herself that way, she cannot let go of him. She, too, would need the Angel of Freedom, to give her back her dignity, the feeling that she is valuable, that she does not need to run after this man. Other people feel constricted and imprisoned in their marriage, in their family, in a community. They don’t have room to breathe. They, too, would need the Angel of Freedom to give them inner freedom so that they can feel free even within the restrictions that surround them. Inner freedom means that no one can control my inner, true self. This allows for freedom even within a friendship or relationship. I am not defined by the other person. I am still myself. This kind of freedom is necessary if friendship or marriage is to succeed. If two persons cling to each other all the time, if they have to make sure all the time what the other is thinking this very moment, it is impossible for a mature relationship to grow within such confinement. Even if I have ties, I still need my freedom. And even with ties, I am free, because there is a space within me that no one can control. I wish that the Angel of Freedom may give this kind of inner freedom to you, so that you can truly feel yourself free, so you can live your life with no reservations.

© by Anselm Grün, 50 Engel für das Jahr, 1997;
 translation by JunoMagic.

Song for December 24:

Angel of Freedom

Mein Engel (“My Angel”)
by Hans-Jürgen Hufeisen,
album “Das Engelskonzert” (“Concert of Angels”)

I hope my angels brought a little peace and quiet to you in the busy days of December. The 24 angel icons and 76 other angel icons are posted in my icon journal, , in this post: 80 Angel Icons! If you like any, feel free to “steal” them. If you are interested in the large pictures I used for each post, let me know and I’ll send them to you. The same goes for the music.

Happy holidays!

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An Advent Calendar for my Friends – December 23



Blake, William: The Book of Job: When the Morning Stars Sang Together (detail), 1820;
Watercolor on paper, 110 1/8 x 70 3/8 inches (280 x 179 cm),
Pierpont Morgan Library, New York, USA.

The Angel of Faithfulness

by Anselm Grün

Faithfulness is not in high demand nowadays. Too many people have experienced how newly-weds have sworn to be faithful to each other forever. And already after a short time their marriage is over. Many people are afraid to commit themselves to one person in faithfulness, because they know very well that they cannot offer a guarantee for their faithfulness and their feelings. And yet we long for people who are faithful, who stand by us, who give us security and safety. The desire for faithfulness of other people corresponds to the doubts about our own ability to be faithful.

The German word for “faithful” is “treu” and according to its origins it actually means “strong, sturdy like a tree”. But as we often don’t feel as steadfast as a tree which has deep roots and which cannot be overthrown easily, we are afraid that we cannot be faithful to each other, that we cannot offer a guarantee for our faithfulness. Faithfulness does not imply being true to your principles in this case or to be faithful in fulfilling your job. That is more like acquittal of duties. Faithfulness is always faithfulness towards a person. And the condition for faithfulness is always love. I can only faithful to someone I love. Faithfulness contains the desire of being able to place my trust in the one I love, that I will always be willing to listen to the one I have bound myself to. Faithfulness is not something static, unchanging, but the willingness to walk a way with someone, and the promise to stay faithful and reliable through all of my transformations. Only in faithfulness, in determining my future, I am able to gain my true self from the chances of life. According to the German philosopher Otto F. Bollnow people can only find themselves in faithfulness and that only faithfulness can provide a stable core of personality during the ups and downs of life.

If we promise another person to be faithful we can never offer a guarantee for us. But we don’t have to be able to guarantee our faithfulness. I have promised faithfulness towards my order in my vow. I did not have a guarantee that I would never fall in love either in a way that would make me want to leave this community. But God’s promise that He will be faithful, is helping me. In the second letter of Timothy is a line that is very comforting for me: “If we believe not, yet he abideth faithful: he cannot deny himself.” That He is faithful to me even if I am unfaithful assures me that my life will succeed, no matter if there are disruptions inside or outside. And this takes away my fear of committing to my community in faithfulness.

If we say about people that they are faithful, then we are not only talking about spouse who are faithful to their relationship and do not commit adultery. Much more than this we mean people we can rely on. We don’t have to play up to them all the time. They stand by us faithfully. And this is good for us. We know that even if we have not heard from them for a long time, we can count on them. We know of someone who writes to us at least once a year, for decades. It’s not too much bother for him. Obviously we are important enough to him that he is trying to keep in touch with us. When my sister stayed in Italy as a young woman, she met a married Italian professor for sociology. They went their different roads and passed through many transformations, both inside and outside. But they kept up a friendly relationship for more than 30 years. If she goes to Italy, she can always come and stay with him. And if he has to go abroad, she gets the key to his apartment. This is a kind of faithfulness that is good for you, something you can count on.

I wish that an Angel of Faithfulness may be at your side, people, who stand by you faithfully, people you can rely on. And I wish that the Angel of Faithfulness may help you to be faithful yourself. Then you will experience how good you are for other people that way and how you can find your true inner self in the capriciousness of your own heart. Faithfulness does not need to be expressed in spectacular vows. It is visible in your reliability, in your willingness to stand by someone for all of their lives, to accompany them on all their ways of transformation without turning away from them. Such a kind of faithfulness is blessed. In such a kind of faithfulness we experience the angel who makes this possible to begin with. Because we are not able to accomplish this on our own. By this kind of faithfulness people feel themselves held and supported in the vicissitudes of our world. This lets them know that they are important for someone else. And this helps them to see their own value and to stand up for themselves in spite of all disappointments.

© by Anselm Grün, 50 Engel für das Jahr, 1997;
 translation by JunoMagic.

Song for December 23:

Angel of Faithfulness

Quelle der Freude (“Source of Joy”)
by Hans-Jürgen Hufeisen,
album “Gold, Weihrauch und Föte” (“Gold, Incense and Flute”)

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An Advent Calendar for my Friends – December 22



“Laughing Fairy” by elais at stock.XCHANG

The Angel of Transformation

by Anselm Grün

Angels appear in various guises. They have the ability of transformation. They transform themselves into a person who accompanies us on our way of life. They transform themselves into a physician who treats our wounds, into a therapist who frees us from the entanglement in neurotic patterns of behaviour, into a priest who frees us from our guilt. “Angels appear unlooked-for” are the words of a modern song. Sometimes it is your boyfriend or your girlfriend who tell you something that allows you to see yourself with new eyes. Sometimes it is a child who looks at you and shows you how unimportant the problems are that you are battling with.

Angels are artists of transformation. The Angel of Transformation however wants to introduce you to the secret of your transformation. If you want to stay alive, you have to change again and again. Someone who does not change, grows stiff. C.G. Jung once said that the worst enemy of transformation is a successful life. Because then you think that everything is just fine. You don’t need to change. And then such people get stuck, inside and outside. They keep repeating the same phrases they have already used twenty years ago. They depend on the same solutions that have always worked so far. They become boring. You’re not really keen on talking to such persons. Their talking and thinking is stale, like cold coffee that does not taste good.

The Angel of Transformation want to prevent you from being to hard on yourself. Many people believe they have to change. But this change contains a lot of severity and hostility towards yourself. I have to change. Because the way I am, I am no good. I have to get rid of my faults, my sensitivity, my fears, my anger. An attitude like that implies that all of my faults and weaknesses are evil. The Angel of Transformation wants to impart to you the understanding that everything that is in you may exist. Everything that is in you has a reason. But there also needs to be transformation. Your fears are good. They show you that you have a wrong attitude towards life. Maybe you are thinking that you need to be perfect in everything you do, that you may make no mistakes. Then your fears show you how you harm yourself with this attitude. And it is an invitation to choose a more humane way of living. Your anger is good. If you allow your anger to be and you look at it, if you discover its roots, then your anger may turn into new vitality. Then your anger may show you that you have always focused on others. Now you finally want to live for yourself. That way your anger can turn into new energy of life.

Fairy tales know about the secret of transformation. People are turned into animals and animals into people. Everything can be transformed there. This shows that you don’t have to be scared by anything that is within you. Every within you can be transformed, too. A beautiful tale illustrates the secret of transformation. It is the fairy tale of the three languages. A young man does not learn what his father wants him to. Instead he learns the language of the dogs, the language of the frogs and the language of the birds. When he comes to a castle during his wanderings, the lord of the castle offers him a tower to stay in that is the home of wild dogs which have already killed many people. But he is not afraid, because he knows their language after all. And they tell him that they are only wild and rabid because they are guarding a treasure. They show him the treasure and help him to dig it out of the earth. Then they disappear and peace returns to the country. I think that is a beautiful vision: where your biggest problem is, where you suffer the most, where you are sick of yourself, there is also your treasure. There you can get in touch with your true inner self. The tales wants to show you that everything that is inside you is there for a reason. If you are discontent and angry all the time, you don’t have to reject yourself because of your feelings. Instead you ought to ask yourself to which treasure these feelings may lead you. If you have discovered the treasure, if you have found your true inner self, these feelings will be transformed. Then you are suddenly at peace with yourself. And you are grateful that the noisy dog has made you notice this hidden treasure. The Angel of Transformation wants to give you courage to look at everything inside you with mild eyes, because everything inside you is something that wants to be transformed so that your own true light may shine brighter and brighter.

© by Anselm Grün, 50 Engel für das Jahr, 1997;
translation by JunoMagic.

Song for December 22:

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Windgesang aus dem Süden (“Windsong of the South”)
by Hans-Jürgen Hufeisen,
album “Pegasus – Melodien der vier Winde”
(“Pegasus – Melodies of the Four Winds”)


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An Advent Calendar for my Friends – December 21



Bouguereau, William: L’Amour Mouille, 1891;
Oil on canvas, 61 1/8 x 33 1/4 inches (155.5 x 84.5 cm), Private collection.

The Angel of Openness

by Anselm Grün

There are many people you can never really get to know, because they are so withdrawn inside themselves. They have put up shields around themselves so that no one can reach them. They have hidden away behind a mask because they are afraid to show their true faces. They don’t want to show themselves because they are afraid of really meeting someone. They are afraid of their own inner truth. The Angel of Openness wants to open you up for the mystery of meeting. You can truly meet someone else only if you are open for her, if you open up your heart and allows the other person to enter yours. The basic model for such an open meeting is for me the meeting between Mary and Elisabeth the way it is related to in the first chapter of Luke. Mary begins her journey then. She leaves her house, her shelter, and she crosses the mountains. She crosses mountains of prejudices that often prevent us from real meetings, and the mountains of inhibitions that keep us locked up within ourselves. And she enters the house of Elisabeth and greets her. She meets her cousin not only outside, but she enters her house and her heart. Both of them are open for each other. And that way the mystery of meeting can happen that transforms both of them, that brings both of them in touch with the original vision that God has of them. In Elisabeth it is her inner child bouncing up and down that reminds her of the unadulterated vision that God had of her. And she recognizes the mother of her Lord in Mary. And Mary recognizes the secret of her life in the hymn of the Magnificat. She realizes that He has seen her in all her lowliness as a maidservant and has done something great unto her. If we meet each other with the kind of openness we have seen in this epitome of a meeting between Mary and Elisabeth, then the meeting will transform us, too, and will open our eyes for the secret of our lives.

The Angel of Openness may open you up for the future, for the plans that God has for you. Some people have devised their lives in a way that they are not open for the new things that He offers them. Everything should stay the way it is. Such persons have become grown stiff and immobile. You should be open for new opportunities that He wants to offer you. New things can only flower within you if you are open for them, if you are not determined by the past, if you are not stuck in the rut of your life. This openness is evident in the willingness to take up new ideas, to learn new ways of dealing with things, to take on new challenges at work, in family, in society again and again. Open people are willing to learn new things for their jobs over and over again, they allow themselves to be introduced to new technologies, they accept new developments. Open people remain vibrant and astute.

Openness in dealing with other persons also means honesty and frankness. Someone who says openly what she thinks, allows others to know how they stand with her. Such people are a blessing. They won’t talk about us behind our backs. In their company we can open up, too. Their candour is good for us. Even if they tell us something unpleasant, we know that they mean well. They don’t hide their reservations and prejudices behind a friendly façade. They show themselves the way they are. They dare to tell us the truth because they feel themselves to be free. They are not dependant on our acceptance. Because they are at peace with themselves, their honesty makes it possible for them to accept it if someone turns away from them because she cannot handle their criticism. The Angel of Openness may give to you such candour and frankness that you may be able to tell others with inner freedom what you really feel inside your heart. Of course such candour needs prudence and sensitivity. You have to feel what you may tell someone and when you would only hurt them unnecessarily. But because you are not absolutely dependant to be popular with everyone, you are free to tell the truth. Look at the angel Gabriel and how he prophesies Mary the birth of her son. Here artists have given form to the Angel of Openness. Here the angel is open for the woman he meets. And with his openness he also opens up Mary for the seemingly impossible. The Angel of Openness may open you up for the mystery of real meetings with other people and for the new opportunities you are trusted with.

© by Anselm Grün, 50 Engel für das Jahr, 1997;
 translation by JunoMagic.

Song for December 21:

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Erwartung (“Expectation”)
by Hans-Jürgen Hufeisen,
album “Gold, Weihrauch und Flöte” (“Gold, Incense and Flute”)


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An Advent Calendar for my Friends – December 20


Angel of Prudence
An angel on the Bridge of Angels in Rome.
Picture by JunoMagic, 2005.

The Angel of Prudence

by Anselm Grün

Prudence is the first of the four virtues. It is the ability to find out what is here and now acceptable and beneficial for me. The Latin word for prudence is prudentia. This is derived from providentia and means caution, providence. Someone who is prudent is looking ahead. She acts circumspectly. She is looking beyond what is here at this moment in time. She has a wide horizon. She judges reality the way it is. For the Greek philosopher Aristotle prudence was the prerequisite for all other virtues. First I have to recognize reality for what it really is. Then I can act accordingly. According to Josef Pieper this virtue “enables the human being to be and do what she is really meant to do”. My life will only be worthwhile if I orient it towards reality. The ancient ones made a distinction between prudence and wisdom. Wisdom understands the mystery of being, prudence sees how understanding of reality can be used in every moment and how it can be put to use in daily life.

You need the Angel of Prudence if you have to make a decision. Your Angel of Prudence sees further than you do. He has a wider horizon. He looks ahead, he has foresight (providentia) about which consequences your decision might have. You have to ask your Angel of Prudence to be able to distinguish between what the most profound motivations for your decisions are and which decision can match them best in reality. You need the Angel of Prudence if you want to judge a situation accurately. You are called upon to solve an argument. Many people think in their eagerness that all they need to do is to love. Then everything will turn out alright. A prudent person is going to look at a situation carefully. She will ask for the reasons of the conflict. She will ask for several different opinions. And only after she has heard and thought about everything, she reach a decision and is going to look for ways to settle the dispute. A prudent person looks at everything and tries to understand everything in order to be able to decide correctly.

Jesus said that a man who builds his house on a rock is prudent. He doesn’t build his house on the sandy ground of illusions, on the sand of enthusiasm, but on the rock of real experience, such as Jesus related in the Sermon on the Mount. The prudent person considers everything. She acts with deliberation. And she knows what is crucial. The prudent person is not a “know-it-all”, but someone who recognizes what is essential and considers it. Jesus praises the prudence of the unfair steward who manages to find the right solution in a difficult situation. In a hopeless situation he realizes that he cannot deal with his guilt that way without losing all self-respect. The prudent person will find a solution that is adequate for each situation. Prudent women look ahead. Silly girls live only for the moment. Prudence is obviously a condition for making our lives work.

In German we often connect prudence with cunning, but that is beside the point. The German word for prudent “klug” actually means: subtle, tender, graceful, educated, adept, courageous, dauntless. Someone who is prudent does not only use her mind for thinking, but also her heart. She will dauntlessly use an opportunity that arises. And she sees the subtle nuances which remain hidden to cruder people. Prudence is the practical wisdom of implementing knowledge into action suited to reality. Therefore knowing a lot will not help you much if you do not recognize an opportunity. Therefore I wish that the Angel of Prudence may help you to recognize how to find a way that may lead you to more freedom and liberty and love at any given moment.

© by Anselm Grün, 50 Engel für das Jahr, 1997;
 translation by JunoMagic.

Song for December 20:

Angel of Prudence

Fata Morgana,
by Hans-Jürgen Hufeisen,
album “Pegasus – Melodien der vier Winde”
(“Pegasus – Melodies of the Four Winds”)

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An Advent Calendar for my Friends – December 19



ROSSO FIORENTINO: Musician Angel, c. 1520;
Tempera on wood, 47 x 39 cm, Galleria degli Uffizi, Florence.

The Angel of Attentiveness

by Anselm Grün

The Angel of Attentiveness is related to the Angel of Slowness. Attentiveness is a word that is very popular today with spiritual authors. Mainly the Buddhistic monk from Thailand, Thich Nhat Hanh, speaks over and over again about attentiveness, about the art to live attentively. For him the whole wisdom of Buddhism lies in attentiveness, in allowing the energy of attentiveness to flow into every single daily task. He learned already as a young monk to do everything in daily life attentively. All of his asceticism and his daily training consisted of being attentive to everything, to breathing, to walking, to cleaning, to washing his hands. Every time he washed his hands, he said: “Water is flowing over these hands. I will use it carefully to conserve our precious planet.”

The German word for attentiveness is “Achtsamkeit” and derives from “achten, beachten, hochachten”“respect, pay attention to, to esteem”. It has also something to do with awakening. Someone who is attentive to her breath, who attentively guides her steps, who takes up the spoon attentively, who is wholly in that what she is doing at the moment, is waking up. Buddha means “the awakened” after all. And he thinks that many of us live as if they are asleep. They don’t really notice what they are doing. They cherish illusions about their lives. They are not in touch with real life. Attentiveness wants to get us in touch with things, with people. A Zen-monk was asked once about how he practiced meditation. He replied, “When I am eating, I am eating. When I am sitting, I am sitting. When I am standing, I am standing. When I am walking, I am walking.” The questioner asked, “But there’s nothing special about that. All of us are doing that!” The monk said, “No, when you are sitting, you are already standing again. And when you are standing, you are already on your way.”

The practice of meditation is to simply pay attention to what I am doing at the moment. Then I realize how attentivenes is a spiritual power that adds new flavour to my life. Then I get the feeling that I am living, and not being lived. And I feel how life is a mystery, full of depth, full of vibrancy, full of joy.

Attentiveness has something to do with respect, with appreciation. I use my breath attentively, because in it I feel the breath of Good, which fills me with life, which fills my whole body with His healing warmth. I take up my tools attentively, because I recognize the work someone put into them. I take care of the plants in my room attentively, because I can touch the mystery of Creation and the Creator in them.

Attentiveness is not only for Zen-monks, but also for western monks a characteristic of a spiritual person. Saint Benedict also asks his monks to take care of the tools in their monasteries carefully and attentively. Everything is precious, everything is a holy item of the altar. But even we monks often forget about attentiveness. Often we treat our books, our dishes, our tools disregardful. Therefore probably all of us need an Angel of Attentiveness in our daily carelessness and thoughtlessness, who reaches for us again and again, who wakes us from our sleep and makes us pay attention to live wholly in the moment, to be attentive towards whatever we are doing at the moment.

Attentiveness in everything I do bestows a tender hue to my life. Thus I am completely present, one with myself and the world. But this attentiveness is not simply given to us. It has to be practiced on a daily basis. But it turns into a way to measure my spirituality. I can use the most pious words or give the most beautiful spiritual lectures, if attentiveness is lacking, everything is nothing but hollow words. I wish that an Angel of Attentiveness may guide you to discover more and more of the art of living and of doing everything with attentivenes and appreciation, because every is precious, because everything was made in the most wonderful way by God and is filled with His Spirit.

© by Anselm Grün, 50 Engel für das Jahr, 1997;
 translation by JunoMagic.

Song for December 19:

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Ein Augenblick mit Uriel (“A Moment with Uriel”)
by Hans-Jürgen Hufeisen,
album “Das Engelskonzert” (“Concert of Angels”)


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An Advent Calendar for my Friends – December 18


Angel of Understanding
PERUGINO, Pietro: Tobias with the Angel Raphael, 1500-05;
Oil and tempera on wood, 113,3 x 56,5 cm, National Gallery, London.

The Angel of Understanding

by Anselm Grün

Psychology tries to help suffering people by understanding them without judging, without condemning, no matter what they will say. If a person feels understood, she can express everything that is within her. Then she is not afraid any more, does not need to keep things secret any more. She feels that she is in good hands with this person. Someone who understands her and thus helps her to understand herself better.

A person who understands me without judging me or even condemning me has a healing and liberating effect on me. At last I can say what has bothered me for a long time, what I always kept back, because I was embarrassed about it, because it did not fit with my ethical convictions. And by talking about it openly it loses its venomous effect. Then I don’t need all of my energy any more to keep something unpleasant and unspeakable secret. It’s brought out of its hiding place into the light of day and thus it can be transformed.

The German word for “understanding” is “Verstehen”. It derives from “stehen”, standing. The prefix “ver” is connected with the Latin “pro”, for, and “prae”, before, and “per”, through. Someone who understands me, stands by me, behind me, and shields me from the projections others throw at me. She stands by me, so that I can learn to stand up for myself. She stands by me so that I can stand up for myself more effectively, so that I may acquire firmer footing. And she will stand by me as I face my problems. She won’t lose her footing if she hears about my instability. By standing with me in my situation, she enables me to stand my life and to show strength. When an Angel of Understanding comes to visit me, then I will learn to stand more firmly, to find my standpoint, to stand up for myself. Gradually I acquire stability. I don’t lose my balance, because I don’t know what the matter is with me. I can stand up for myself, because someone understands me and stand by me with her understanding so that I may stand up to life.

We say about two friends that they understand each other perfectly. I don’t only long for someone who understands me, but I also long for a friend I understand. People, who understand each other without words, who don’t have misunderstandings all the time, are on good terms with each other. They stand together. And they respect each other’s standpoints. She does not have to conform to my standpoints. She may be the way she is. She may show her feelings. Understanding means that no one uses the other person for her own purposes, but they stand together, that they are on good terms with each other. But this will work only if everyone can stand for herself.

I can only understand a friend well, if I understand myself, if I have enough self-understanding. If I can only stand when someone stands by me, then I will grow dependant on her. And this goes against my dignity. To understand myself, I need the Angel of Understanding. He understands myself better than I do. He sees things in me that are hidden from my view or that I do not want to look at. He sees them without judging me. He sees and understands. This makes it possible for me to see myself how I am and to understand myself, to accept everything that is within me.

Understanding heals. In counselling I feel good if the other person feels understood. Then intimacy and intensity can develop. Then the other person can lift herself up. Her heart grows wide. Because she feels understood, she gains firm footing. She can can breathe freely. All fear of not being good enough, of not being allowed to be the way she is, is gone. She feels firm ground beneath her feet. Therefore I wish that you may meet many Angels of Understanding who give yourself new stability. And I wish that you may be an Angel of Understanding for others, too. You will experience how good it feels when someone tells you: “I feel that you really understand me. I enjoy ‘standing with you’. ‘Standing with you’ is a good thing. Because you stand behind me, judgements and condemnations by others or myself cannot hurt me. With you near me, I can stand up for myself.”

© by Anselm Grün, 50 Engel für das Jahr, 1997;
 translation by JunoMagic.

Song for December 18:

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San Raffaele
by Hans-Jürgen Hufeisen,
album “Das Engelskonzert” (“Concert of Angels”)

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